What not to do if you’re a friend, loved one or family member suffer from a psychological condition.
1. Do not under any circumstances scold the person for being lazy, boring or grumpy all the time. You have zero clue what that person is suffering through every single day.
2. Do not ask them if they’re ever going to get up and start contributing to society.
3. Do not say condescending things to the person or call them condescending names.
4. Do not speak to that person about their condition unless they green light it. Also, do not speak to them like they’re a child. They’re probably much smarter than you.
5. Do not call them lazy. Some of the finest minds in history (and today), suffer from some sort of psychological condition. When last have you listened to Elon Musk. No offence, of course.
6. Do NOT stage an intervention. Trust me…chaos will ensue.
So what should you do? There’s a very real person with a very real problem.
THE FIRST LOGICAL STEP, WHEN THEY FINALLY ALLOW IT, IS TO TAKE THEM TO THE DOCTOR. THE DOCTOR WILL USE HIS LIMITED KNOWLEDGE OF PSYCHOLOGICAL CONDITIONS AND REFER THE PERSON TO A PSYCHOLOGIST.
WHICH IS ABSOLUTELY THE CORRECT THING TO DO IN THOSE CIRCUMSTANCES.
A DOCTOR SHOULD BY NO MEANS PRESCRIBE AN ANTIDEPRESSANT, ANTICONVULSANT, OR DRUGS FOR ANY OTHER PSYCHOLOGICAL ILLNESSES THE CLIENT MAY HAVE.
IT IS NOT WHAT HE STUDIED FOR AND IS NOT EQUIPPED TO DO.
THE PSYCHOLOGIST WILL ASK YOU A BUNCH OF QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR FAMILY, YOUR FRIENDS, YOUR FEELINGS TOWARD CERTAIN THINGS. REGARDLESS OF YOUR ANSWERS, YOU WILL BE REFERRED TO A PSYCHIATRIST WHO WILL KNOW THE BEST MEDICINE TO TREAT YOU.
IMPORTANTLY, HE OR SHE WILL ALSO SCHEDULE A FOLLOW UP SESSION.
THIS SESSION WILL BE ONGOING UNTIL THEY FEEL YOUR CONDITION IS IN AN ACCEPTABLE REMISSION.
WHAT I ALWAYS FID DURING THESE SESSIONS, AND THIS IS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, IS THAT THE TONE OF QUESTIONING DOESN’T CHANGE.
I CAN ALMOST GUARANTEE YOU THE QUESTIONS HE / SHE IS GOING TO ASK BEFORE I GO IN.
THERE’S LITTLE TO NO TREATMENT. IT’S THE SAME (IMPORTANT) QUESTIONS ON HOW YOU FEEL.
THE JOB OF A PSYCHIATRIST IS VERY HARD. WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE BRAIN YET TO ITS FULLEST CAPACITY. NOT EVEN CLOSE.
STILL, PSYCHIATRISTS ARE MODERN DAY HEROES, IF YOU HAPPEN TO LAND AT THE CORRECT ONE.
HE NEEDS TO FIGURE OUT EXACTLY WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU…ALL OF YOU, AND PRESCRIBE A PILL OR A HANDFUL OF PILLS TO MAKE YOU BETTER.
AND THEY WORK. SORT OF. MOSTLY. MORE OFTEN THAN NOT.
EXCEPT FOR THE FIRST FEW WEEKS OF SIDE EFFECTS; NAUSEA, IRRITABILITY, NIGHT TERRORS, SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, LACK OF CONCENTRATION, LACK OF LIBIDO. THE LIST IS A SCARY ONE.
SO THEY ENCOURAGE YOU TO GO THE PSYCHOLOGIST’S SESSIONS; PROBABLY TO MAKE SURE YOU HAVEN’T KILLED YOURSELF.
WHAT? I CAN’T MAKE A JOKE ABOUT MY OWN CONDITIONS.
EVENTUALLY THINGS CHANGE. YOU FEEL BETTER…MAYBY NOT HAPPY OR SAD, BUT YOU’RE UP AND ABOUT. LIFE GOES ON. AND IT’S…OK.
AND THEN YOU REALISE YOU FEEL NUMB. TOWARDS EVERYTHING. YES, THE PILLS TAKE AWAY THE FOG, ONLY FOR YOU TO SEE THE WORLD AS GREY. THE ABILITY TO LAUGH FROM YOUR STOMACH,TO FEEL ALIVE, TO LOVE…THAT HAS ALL DISAPPEARED.
WHAT HAVE YOU TRADED YOUR DEPRESSION FOR. AND I USE DEPRESSION AS AN OVER-ARCHING TERM FOR ALL PSYCHOLOGICAL CONDITIONS, AND ANTIDEPRESSANTS FOR ALL OVER-ARCHING PSYCHOLOGICAL MEDICINE.
ARE YOU OK NOT EXPERIENCING JOY LIKE OTHERS? ARE YOU OK UNABLE TO LOVE THE WAY YOU SHOULD? ARE YOU OK WITH THE APATHY?
IF YES, YOUR LIFE IS ABOUT TO BEGIN. SLIGHTLY LESS EXCITING, BUT STILL…YOU’RE OK.
If you know where to look and what to look for, and this is especially applicable to family members, loved ones and friends, it is not that hard to see a loved one in psychological pain.
1. The obvious one…you see less of the person. Oh but that could just be coincidence.
2.Try calling them. That’s another obvious sign that something isn’t right. Especially combined with #1. They don’t answer their phone. They prefer text or WhatsApp…and even that is a stretch.
3. They’re very seldom in the mood for something “fun”. Anything that requires them to a) get up, b) prepare, c) get dressed and d) pretend to have fun is a massive chore.
4.They sleep a lot. A lot!
5.They drink or do recreational drugs more often than they used to. This is very dangerous.6 They lose their libido. Women generally have a lower libido, so this is a tricky one, but for men, this could be an obvious sign.
This list goes on, but I’d rather speak to the client, or someone close to the client, before I make an assessment.